Common Family Conflicts When Caring for Aging Parents

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Caring for a loved one is hard enough without the underlying family problems. Unfortunately, as an elderly parent begins to need more support from family members, conflict between adult siblings often increases, sometimes triggering long-dormant sibling rivalry. If differences are managed well, however, the experience of caregiving can bring relatives closer. Here are the most common family fights that arise over senior care.

Disagreements over the senior’s condition

It’s incredibly common for family members to disagree on what’s wrong with a loved one and what should be done. A primary in-home caregiver who spends a great deal of time with a senior loved one may understand the given diagnosis or reduced capabilities but siblings may disagree. For example, some family members may dispute a dementia diagnosis or argue mom is “just a little forgetful.”

Financial conflicts

Finances can cause strife in any relationship, and this is certainly true when it comes to senior care. Families often disagree as to how senior care in San Antonio should be paid, where he or she should live, and who should manage his or her finances. It’s not uncommon for the primary caregiver in charge of the senior’s finances to feel pressure from other family members.

Arguments over fairness

Sometimes one sibling ends up shouldering a greater burden of a loved one’s care, which can foster resentment. Siblings who live far away may find themselves “off the hook” while the closest family members are left to caregiving. When the caregiver asks for help from other family members, they may not appreciate the difficulty of the situation or how much work one sibling has been left with.

One sibling excludes others from decisions

While sometimes one sibling is forced to handle a greater share of the burden, it’s also possible for one sibling to take over the role of caregiving and leave other family members in the dark. In some cases, this goes to such an extreme that other family members are left out of decisions or even given limited access to the loved one.

End-of-life decisions

No one enjoys making end-of-life decisions for a loved one, and this is made even harder when family members disagree. One sibling may want a parent to go into hospice, another sibling may argue for all forms of life-prolonging care.

One thing you and your family members can hopefully agree upon is providing the best care possible for your aging parent or relative. At Home Care Assistance of San Antonio, all of our care services are backed by a 100 percent satisfaction guarantee, ensuring our clients are always satisfied with the care given. For more information on our senior care services, including hourly, live-in, stroke, dementia, and Alzheimer’s care in San Antonio, call (210) 495-6300 today.





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